- Elias Zeekeh, MBA, CPA, CMA
Are you addicted to Self-Help?
Have you been actively looking to improve in certain areas of your life, but making no progress? If you’re in this position you’re definitely not alone as there are millions of people who indulge in self-help, but at what point exactly would you consider yourself a self-help addict?
The common pattern of self-help addicts is to read self-help concepts, attend seminars, and analyze concepts but it ends there with no action taken. In some cases they might get a temporary motivational boost while consuming self-help material and behavior changes for a short period while the excitement is high. When the excitement begins to diminish, they revert to their old behavior, and they are back looking for another “hit” of self-help. For some they may seek self-help but when it’s provided they reject it and keep looking for something better, and are stuck in that pattern of looking for the perfect solution.
To avoid the self-help addict cycle it requires gaining a sense of self-awareness. Some people make the mistake of thinking because they gained new ideas, that they have somehow made progress. The best way to gauge the impact of self-help is to look at the actual changes in your life in the area that you received self-help. For example: Are you still in the same job you hated 6 months ago? Have you been able to reduce your debt? Are you saving more? If there have been no changes then there is no progress. Don’t trick yourself into a false sense of achievement.
Lastly, if you’re consuming self-help materials then you need to clearly gauge what results you’re looking to achieve and how the material will help you, otherwise you’re wasting both your time and money. Self-help is simply a tool to help you overcome various life problems. In order to reap its rewards you need to “take massive and consistent action” in the words of Tony Robbins.